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Similarities in human healing and Kinstugi by making “perfect” scars a thing of strength and beauty
Kintsugi parallels human healing. As a process, Kintsugi takes a lot of work. It requires considerable care, attention, and, most importantly, time. There is no rushing anything. The repair takes as long as it takes. If you try to rush it, you will either be dissatisfied with the result or prolong the process because rushing it creates the need to double back and make good on your hastiness. The process looks something like this. Assemble the broken pieces with a basic rule of thumb; the more breaks there are, the longer this will take. Kintsugi is a labour of love. That’s clear. Once you assemble the pieces and make the glue Urushi (Japanese lacquer), the ceramic must be placed inside a Muro (a cardboard box to help control the humidity) for seven days. And so, the waiting begins.
Are you who you say you are or do you change your colours like a chameleon?
I can be a straight shooter, yet I begin to pull back and soften my stance when it comes to personal relationships. All in the name of preserving relationships. The reality is, not being straight across the board is not only damaging the relationship with the person in front of me, but it’s also damaging the relationship with the person in the mirror, ME.
The cost of that is high.
The first person you need to be inspired by is yourself
To be reasonable is to life a small life. Ask yourself this question… Have you ever been inspired by anyone living a small and reasonable life? Reasonable is the middle ground, the centre of the bell curve; it’s where average lives, and it’s predictable. It’s also very dull, and above all, it is soul destroyingly safe!
Seeing is Believing…Are you sure or is it just a theory?
Under Pressure We all suffer the pressures of everyday life. A psychologist once told me “if anyone tells you they are going to rid you of the stress of life Run…they're going to kill you!” The only time we are immune to the world is after we’ve left it. Not a great...
Listening and speaking go hand in hand; it starts with you!
We just stop talking, we stop offering our ideas, and we start to censor ourselves. The thoughts that run through our mind are they won’t listen in any case, or if I speak up, they won’t hear what I mean, or worse someone else will raise the same point and what do you know that will fly. We say to ourselves why bother; they won’t hear me and we shut ourselves down before someone else has a chance to.
What’s So Great About Having Purpose?
Vision is the end game, it may not even be achievable in your lifetime or the next. Nevertheless it's a cause close to your heart and very important to you. Your Mission is the contribution you can make given your experience skills and education, to bring about your...
Ask forgiveness after the fact or seek permission first?
Authenticity is a focus these days and for good reason. Have you ever noticed that Authenticity, Author and Authority all look suspiciously similar? They share similar origins and share a parallel connection that aligns with being self-directed, genuine, and authoritative. YOU are the authority in your own life, and for as long as you surrender that role, you will always be waiting for permission…
You Can Live Your Life Your Way…it’s a matter of perspective
Perspective It has taken me a long time to learn life is about perspective, how you choose to see life determines how your life will work out. We can decide we know everything we need to know and close our minds, literally kill off that life can be another way. What...
People. You can’t live with them and you can’t live without them!
We make very different decisions when we see ourselves as a part of something bigger and when we see ourselves as connected to each other. The missing piece is seeing the connection that is at the heart of everything. We are part of not separate from each other any more than our liver is separate to our kidneys. To see things differently, we must look at things differently, which comes down to our motives, perceptions, and context. We have more in common than we realise.